“When people are anxious, if you're anxious about math, for example, every time you see numbers your fear center lights up in the brain and it's the same fear center that lights up when we see snakes and spiders... What we now know is that every time we learn something, our brain forms new connections and either forms new pathways or strengthens or connects pathways. And our brains are constantly changing.”
“The words we use are really important for people's learning. So when we praise them with fixed words and we say things like, you're smart and you're gifted, even though that seems good, it sets people on a path of being very vulnerable and always wanting to keep that labels so they choose easy work. So, if you were to say to your kid: you're so smart, you're so smart, you're sort of imprinting something that is negative. What we know now is that when you praise your own kids and you say you're so smart, what they hear is, Oh great, I'm smart. But then when they mess up on something, which they will, everybody does, they think, Oh, I'm not so smart. And they're always evaluating themselves against this fixed idea.”
“There's more brain growth when you make a mistake than when you get work correct. And the very best times for our brains is when we are struggling, when we're finding things difficult, when we're making mistakes, that's when our brains are sort of on fire with growth."